Listen to anyone
who teaches about making change, and they will all tell you in their own way that change is the hardest thing to do.
Have you ever wanted something new or different, but never got it?
You thought about it a lot, even about how you might achieve it…but any effort you made toward it fell short.
Does that mean you don’t have what it takes?
Mostly, we blame the circumstances:
There’s not enough money.
I don’t have the time.
I don’t know how.
The important people in my life don’t like it, don’t support it.
When we peek behind the reasons that we don’t have what we yearn for, or why we’re not where we want to be, we find one common denominator.
Fear of change is naturally built into us….
because change is the first sign of risk.
Risk implies danger. You could both lose what you have AND not gain what you want. Fear is the alarm signal that prepares you to avoid danger and to survive.
Since ALL change has some level of risk…change is hard.
It’s not that you don’t have within you what it takes to make a change. The thought of failure, translated into weakness, overrides and makes you stop.
By nature, we try always to prevent others from seeing our vulnerabilities…and being afraid, or worried, or anxious makes us vulnerable.
So we must steer attention away from this. The best way?
Disguise it as something else. Hence, all the excuses and reasons. Look. See? It’s the circumstances, not me.
This is often where inexplicable physical symptoms and pain show up….especially those that don’t respond to conventional medicine or surgery.
We think that suppressing our desires and our truth will keep us safe from upsetting the status quo and losing something. But this is excruciating to the body… and, over time, leads invariably to physical malfunction.
Change is hard
Change is freeing
Change is possible
Change is life
It takes compassion and tender care to soothe the fear, strategize the change and reassure the body back into wellness, vitality and courage. You can do it on your own, but it’s better with help.
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